if this were a tri-scroll turbo I'd agree somewhat, but the way I see it, think of headers like lanes of traffic. equal length will make the lanes alternate 1-2-3-1-2-3-1-2-3 etc., & because there equal length this merging without collision happens at every frequency throughout the band.
unequal length will of course cause collisions at some frequencies, although unequal can be still tuned for a specific frequency & at & around that frequency the lanes can still merge 1-2-3-1-2-3 etc, but above or below the tuned freq. then the collisions will occur. for example the HR factory manifolds are of course not equal length, but they are tuned to optimum efficency in the upper rpm range or at peak tourque, or where ever the engineers at nissan designed them to be tuned too, so while they will not perform as well as an equal length header at some points they can act like equal length in a certain range too....
the whole idea of equal length is to keep traffic moving as smoothly as possible. the collectors also are designed for this, as well as the rest of the exhaust really.... all this is designed to keep the exhaust pulses moving like thousands of cars on a very very high speed highway with minimal collisions & bottlenecks... this is normally asperated
adding a turbo is like adding a toll booth to the high speed highway, bam, traffic jam at the toll booth & will back up all traffic before the toll booth, that's back pressure. traffic will be bumper to bumper all the way up until it can pass the tollbooth & then resume it's trip on the high speed highway. this back pressure is what makes the equal length less effective, because there will inevitably be much more collisions whether the merges are equal length or not really once a turbo is in the picture... the pulses can't step on the brakes, so the only thing that stops them is colliding into the pulses before it that are facing back pressure of the toll booth. they must all push thru the toolbooth, with this backpressure there are always pulses waiting to take there turn to push through & the pressure is applied throughout the whole 360* of rotation. this is not to say there aren't benefits from equal length, I'm sure there are benefits even though there is back pressure, but the back pressure makes it not as significant as it would be had it been NA
this is another reason why you can tune a NA car with the exhaust system really & sometimes no exhaust or too big of an exhaust is not as good as a smaller exhaust might be on a NA car, but the same does not apply with a turbo. with a turbo the only good exhaust is no exhaust after the turbo. of course that's not always practical, but the bigger the better when it comes to turbo exhaust, this again is because of that back pressure caused by the turbo, the engine cannot benefit from any additional backpressure from the exhaust because it's already restricted too much by the turbo to begin with...