Hi I have a 09 fx35, it just started doing that as well. I was driving and all of sudden the transmission is disengaged. As if it's neutral. Initially I put it in park and put back in D. It worked and same thing happened again shortly. So I pulled over turn car off and start back up andait drove fine. I want to know if updating the ecm and tcm actually the solution of this issue? I don't know if it's a related problem when my car downshifts the rpm dips and goes back up.