Understood, do what makes you happy. It would be cool if you got the 7 speed working. I originally had big plans for the FX, was going to boost it and so on. Then got a modded 335 and realized the FX was never going to be remotely as fast and I was going to ruin it by trying to make it that way. So I've left the FX as the city cruiser with just bolt ons and aggressive wheels. I get trying to make a regular car fast (had a custom turbo Maxima) but there are so many tradeoffs that you do have to take them into consideration. Also I took a ride in a friend's X5M and realized my FX wasn't ever going to be that so that factored into the decision to leave well enough alone.
For sure, I get and agree w/your sentiment. This is why it's so rare to see something like the fx's or anything else w/30-100k worth of customization done. It's daunting. I've done it before but that was a mustang which had multiples of everything one would ever want. The hard part was choosing. The FX is a rare bird in that it shares a platform w/the 350/g and gained a following.
It's not hard to forget that the fx45 was the fastest suv/crossover out there for awhile, and the fx35 wasn't so far behind. The fx started this race. Automakers all got wood when it came out. I know it and so did I. I remember seeing one in 2002 in CA for the first time. I was like damn, that's radical.
My goal isn't to have the fastest fx. Honestly, I cannot put the fx back at the top of the food chain, but I can with mine and can do so in a detailed, functional and professional way that will do it justice. I just need to shave a few seconds off.
As far as your fx never being as fast as an m series, whaaaat??? Why's that? The things (x5m) a pig, it's a german fucking tank man (I"m part german). Sure, big power but my God, could they not have made it any heavier? Now there's an auto to hold onto for awhile and watch the bills add up. Best to trade it in before the warranty runs out imo.
Recently, I read an article in an auto mag. where a guy popped his 7k mile gtr, stock. Shit happens. There's no reason why one cannot give a respected shop 30k, look the other way, no participation whatsoever, and have an fx35 that will surpass an m. Say you paid 40k 10 years ago for your fx, put 30k in for a total of 70. Take the 30+ difference and buy some stocks.
Now an x5 m w/water/meth + a tune's gonna dip into the 11's just a bit. Add a bunch of goodies to an fx, don't take anything off and one might forget what one set out to do, naa mee?