In terms of tires its all about what you do with the suspension, if you slam it and have your alignment all over the place, then yeah you might wear through tires quicker. But if your just stock, or on springs, or even coils and don't slam the car, you will be fine.
In terms of bending a wheel, I am the worst possible case for our vehicles (short of like the donk guys I guess), I have 22" wheels on 30 series rubber. I am careful with this setup, I don't fly over bumps, and I avoid construction and bad roads. I do this for more reasons than bending a wheel though, I also don't like to beat the ship out of my suspension or other components.
That's not to say however that I havn't hit a couple big bumps, and as of yet I havn't had even a remote issue.
So i'd say you would be fine with 22's on 35 or 40 series rubber.